Amazing Story of a Mother

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When Carolyn Isbister put her 20oz baby on her chest for a cuddle, she thought that it would be the only chance she would ever have to hold her.

Doctors had told the parents that baby Rachel only had only minutes to live because her heart was beating once every ten seconds and she was not breathing.

Isbister remembers:

I didn’t want her to die being cold. So I lifted her out of her blanket and put her against my skin to warm her up. Her feet were so cold.

It was the only cuddle I was going to have with her, so I wanted to remember the moment.” Then something remarkable happened. The warmth of her mother’s skin kick started Rachael’s heart into beating properly, which allowed her to take little breaths of her own.

We couldn’t believe it – and neither could the doctors. She let out a tiny cry.

The doctors came in and said there was still no hope – but I wasn’t letting go of her. We had her blessed by the hospital chaplain, and waited for her to slip away. But she still hung on.

And then amazingly the pink color began to return to her cheeks. She literally was turning from gray to pink before our eyes, and she began to warm up too.

The sad part is that when the baby was born, doctors took one look at her and said ‘no’.

They didn’t even try to help her with her breathing as they said it would just prolong her dying. Everyone just gave up on her,” her mom remembered.

At 24 weeks a womb infection had led to her premature labor and birth and Isbister (who also has two children Samuel, 10, and Kirsten, 8 ) said, “We were terrified we were going to lose her. I had suffered three miscarriages before, so we didn’t think there was much hope.” When Rachael was born she was grey and lifeless.

Ian Laing, a consultant neonatologist at the hospital, said: “All the signs were that the little one was not going to make it and we took the decision to let mum have a cuddle as it was all we could do.

Two hours later the wee thing was crying. This is indeed a miracle baby and I have seen nothing like it in my 27 years of practice. I have not the slightest doubt that mother’s love saved her daughter.”

Rachael was moved onto a ventilator where she continued to make steady progress and was tube and syringe fed her mother’s pumped breastmilk.

Isbister said, “The doctors said that she had proved she was a fighter and that she now deserved some intensive care as there was some hope. She had done it all on her own – without any medical intervention or drugs. She had clung on to life – and it was all because of that cuddle. It had warmed up her body and regulated her heart and breathing enough for her to start fighting.

At 5 weeks she was taken off the ventilator and began breastfeeding on her own. At four months Rachel went home with her parents, weighing 8lbs – the same as any other healthy newborn. Because Rachel had suffered from a lack of oxygen doctors said there was a high risk of damage to her brain. But a scan showed no evidence of any problems and today Rachel is on par with her peers.

Rachel’s mom tells us, “She is doing so well. When we brought her home, the doctors told us that she was a remarkable little girl. And most of all, she just loves her cuddles. She will sleep for hours, just curled into my chest. It was that first cuddle which saved her life – and I’m just so glad I trusted my instinct and picked her up when I did. Otherwise she wouldn’t be here today.”

What to do when children fight: Five Guidelines

Parents usually fail to intervene in escalated sibling conflict, according to a study recently published in “Developmental Psychology,” even though they think they should intervene. And this lack of parental action often results in life-long psychological problems, often severe, especially for the younger children who were victimized.

Here’s how parents can help:

  1. AVOID TAKING SIDES, because it may spur feelings of jealousy or increased hostility.
  2. ACKNOWLEDGE children’s feelings, encouraging them to learn to communicate with one another.
  3. SUGGEST ways that children might learn how to solve problems independently.
  4. DON’T PUNISH children without an explanation – and don’t threaten them.
  5. SET LIMITS by clearly identifying the types of behavior that are not acceptable.

(Laurie Kramer,in “Developmental Psychology”)

Accepted Supplications

The Prophet (s.a.w) is also reported to have said: Three supplications are assured of acceptance without doubt:

  • the complaint of a wronged one
  • the prayer of a traveller, and
  • the prayer of a father for his child

(Tirmidhi)

Supplications from the Quran #9

Our Lord! Grant that our spouses and our offspring be a comfort to our eyes, and give us the grace to lead those who are conscious of You. (Al-Furqaan [25] :74)

Quotes and sayings on Children #5

Children are unpredictable. You never know what inconsistency they’re going to catch you in next. (Franklin P. Jones)

Insanity is hereditary. You get it from your children.  (Samuel Levenson)

The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. (Theodore M. Hesburgh)

Grandchildren are God’s reward for not killing your children. (Unknown)

The fundamental defect with fathers is that they want their children to be a credit to them. (Bertrand Russell)