10 Rules for getting along with people

  1. Remember their names
  2. Be comfortable to be with. Don’t cause strain in others
  3. Try not to let things bother you. Be easygoing
  4. Don’t be egotistical or know-it-all
  5. Learn to be interesting so that people will get something stimulating from being with you
  6. Eliminate the “scratchy” elements in your personality, traits that can irritate others
  7. Never miss a chance to offer support or say “Congratulations”
  8. Work at liking people. Eventually you’ll like them naturally
  9. Honestly try to heal any misunderstandings and drain off grievances
  10. Develop spiritual depth in yourself and share this strength with others.

– Norman Vincent Peale

What to do when children fight: Five Guidelines

Parents usually fail to intervene in escalated sibling conflict, according to a study recently published in “Developmental Psychology,” even though they think they should intervene. And this lack of parental action often results in life-long psychological problems, often severe, especially for the younger children who were victimized.

Here’s how parents can help:

  1. AVOID TAKING SIDES, because it may spur feelings of jealousy or increased hostility.
  2. ACKNOWLEDGE children’s feelings, encouraging them to learn to communicate with one another.
  3. SUGGEST ways that children might learn how to solve problems independently.
  4. DON’T PUNISH children without an explanation – and don’t threaten them.
  5. SET LIMITS by clearly identifying the types of behavior that are not acceptable.

(Laurie Kramer,in “Developmental Psychology”)

The essence of leadership

All of the great leaders have had one characteristic in common: it was the willingness to confront unequivocally the major anxiety of their people in their time. This, and not much else, is the essence of leadership. – John Kenneth Galbraith

Marriage and Divorce

One was never married, and that’s his hell; another is, and that’s his plague. – Robert Burton

Getting divorced just because you don’t love a man is almost as silly as getting married just because you do. – Zsa Zsa Gabor

Do We Care Who?

When they came for the Jews, I did nothing, for I am not a Jew. When they came for the Socialists, I did nothing, for I am not a Socialist. When they came for the labor leaders, the homosexuals, the gypsies, I did nothing, for I am none of these, and when they came for me, I was alone, there was no one to stand up for me. – Martin Niemoller, a Lutheran pastor from Nazi Germany

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Whatever misfortunes the unlucky ones are facing, do we have to know who they are? what they believe in, what colour is their skin?  Isn’t the same red blood is running in them? Aren’t they God’s creation? So make your stand and lend a helping hand in whatever way possible.

Random Quotes #02

Whatever you can do, or dream you can begin it.  Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. – Goethe

Involvement with people is always a very delicate thing – it requires real maturity to become involved and not get all messed up. – Bernard Cooke

Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently. – Henry Ford,

Zeal is a volcano, the peak of which the grass of indecisiveness does not grow.  – Kahlil Gibran

Always make a total effort, even when the odds are against you. – Arnold Palmer

It’s time to start living the life you’ve imagined – Henry James

Do not be too moral. You may cheat yourself out of much life. Aim above morality. Be not simply good; be good for something. – Henry David Thoreau

Achievement seems to be connected with action. Successful men and women keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.  – Conrad Hilton

Blessed are they who have the gift of making friends, for it is one of God’s best gifts. It involves many things, but above all, the power of going out of oneself and appreciating whatever is noble and loving in another. – Thomas Hughes

Treating others with respect can make getting things done easier and more pleasant for everyone. – Unknown