Stress

Resolve today to either resolve or walk away from any situation that makes you unhappy or causes you stress.” — Brian Tracy

“Nature tops the list of potent tranquilizers and stress reducers. The mere sound of moving water has been shown to lower blood pressure.” — Patch Adams

“In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.” — Deepak Chopra

What to do when children fight: Five Guidelines

Parents usually fail to intervene in escalated sibling conflict, according to a study recently published in “Developmental Psychology,” even though they think they should intervene. And this lack of parental action often results in life-long psychological problems, often severe, especially for the younger children who were victimized.

Here’s how parents can help:

  1. AVOID TAKING SIDES, because it may spur feelings of jealousy or increased hostility.
  2. ACKNOWLEDGE children’s feelings, encouraging them to learn to communicate with one another.
  3. SUGGEST ways that children might learn how to solve problems independently.
  4. DON’T PUNISH children without an explanation – and don’t threaten them.
  5. SET LIMITS by clearly identifying the types of behavior that are not acceptable.

(Laurie Kramer,in “Developmental Psychology”)

An Old Cherokee Tale of Two Wolves

One evening an old Cherokee Indian told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, ‘My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all.One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.’

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: ‘Which wolf wins?’

The old Cherokee simply replied, ‘The one you feed.’

This is such a lovely story: so simple and yet so true. I think each and every one of us has these two wolves running around inside us. The Evil wolf or the Good Wolf is fed daily by the choices we make with our thoughts. What you think about and dwell upon will in a sense appear in your life and influence your behavior.

We have a choice, feed the Good Wolf and it will show up in our character, habits and behavior positively. Or feed the Evil Wolf and our whole world will turn negative: like poison, this will slowly eat away at our soul.

The crucial question is “Which are you feeding today”?